When my hubby was chasing me (dating) 25 years ago, it never crossed my mind that we would experience relationship fatigue. We felt so compatible. I was willing to do whatever he wanted, and he seemed to be willing to follow my suggestions. Soon after marriage, it didn’t take us very long to experience the first bout of relationship fatigue.
I am sure you have heard of or experienced relationship fatigue. It is the result of being worn out from trying to work your relationship through the daily grind of life. Most lovers do worry that this would happen in their relationship. Maybe you have experienced this in the past.
Relationship fatigue is so subtle that many experience it and don’t even know they are until it’s too late. If you haven’t experienced it, you may not be sure whether you’re close, or even what to expect if it happens. Talking to many couples that are suffering from this reveals what they think of the cause; “she/he doesn’t love me anymore”. 90% of relationships break due to the effects of relationship fatigue.
But is that really it? So, it’s actually about being in control of your own emotions it is not necessarily what you are doing or how much or how hard you’re contributing in your relationship. You and your spouse or mate may be going through storms in your lives, but if you’re taking authority over your day-to-day emotional status, you probably aren’t at risk of suffering relationship fatigue. And your relationship will remain standing on solid rock.
To check the probability of suffering relationship fatigue, ask yourself the following questions:
1) Do I have control over my emotions as I relate with my partner? Do you have autonomy in your relationship, or are you expected to do exactly what your mate tells you each and every day?
2) Do I have the autonomy to make healthy friendships outside my relationship? Are you respected by his or her close friends? Do you get to decide who your friends are? A big indicator:- are you respected by his/her close friends?
3) Do you feel in control of your future life together? Is there hope for advancement in your business, career or vocation? Is there a hope of making the kind of impact you want to see in the world around you?
If you feel that you have little control in these three areas, you may be really close to experiencing relationship fatigue which is detrimental to the health of your relationship. Take a critical look at your life, and decide on any changes that need to be made.